Let me explain something quickly. To ask someone questions like 'when are you going to have kids' or 'why arent you pregnant yet' or to make comments like 'if you two ever have babies' is incredibly RUDE and hurtful. Do you want to know why, you fucking idiot?! Did you ever stop to think maybe the person desperately wants to have a baby, but for some reason is unable to or is having difficulty get pregnant?! Geesshh, does the thought ever cross your mind?! Imagine being in the situation where you are desperately trying to get pregnant and people are making these comments to you. It is hard enough dealing with the disappointment and heartache month after month, but having comments like that made are just crushing. I tell you this so you stop making these comments to anyone! We did not tell anyone we were even trying to get pregnant, because we didn't want to deal with the constant questions of 'are you pregnant yet?', which would've just added to the misery. But there has been no way to stop the birage of obnoxious questions & comments like that.
We feel incredibly blessed to finally be pregnant and can't wait to share the news with everyone, but the pain of these comments still sting.
So people mind your manners and don't make assumptions that you know nothing about.
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I'm sorry! What a-holes! It seems to be part of every family/circle to ask those same stupid questions: When are you getting married? When are you having kids?
ReplyDeleteI will definitely be more careful, I hope I don't do that w/o realizing it.
Love you!